Feb. 11, 2019.

By Intern Minister Pippin Whitaker.

“I want to just cry, but they’re waiting. There’ll be a time and a place for that,” I recall a bereaved spouse in the hospital telling me she couldn’t cry – she needed to put on a strong face for the grandchildren. Grief unfolds in so many different ways, and numbness is certainly one of them. Yet I wondered, with this expansive family and all the arrangements she would need to make, when would she find her space to cry, or yell or sit with sadness?

When do any of us find the time and space to grieve our losses, our hurts? Perhaps we begin to grieve a major loss – like the death of a loved one, divorce or a terminal illness – only to find that after a few weeks or months we are expected to have “finished” this process and healed our spirits. Or, regardless of anyone’s expectations, the busy pace of life quickly distracts from the pain as well as from healing.

Healing means to become sound or healthy again. To heal the heart or spirit is not to erase the breaks and wounds, but to restore us to a place where we can give and receive love and joy again. Although we may feel pulled away from grief or rushed along, the broken places in the heart still deserve care and time. Even stress and dashed hopes can wear on us, leaving another wound on the heart. National and global events can dismay us and weigh on our hearts. All these burdens deserve care and healing.

To create a time and space for healing, the UUCF Pastoral Care Team will host a healing service in the Sanctuary on Fri., Feb. 15, at 7 p.m. Whatever your sadness, no matter how long ago it started, how distant or how small you think it may be, it is welcome in this service of healing. All are invited to bring an optional short reading that brings peace and healing, to share in the service. Child care will be provided.

If you need other support for healing, please also know that you can reach out to the UUCF ministry team or Pastoral Care Team for support. We may live in challenging times due to personal, national or global losses, but this community rises to these times with compassion and a sense of joy through our shared journey.